Reinventing Joy

Last night marked the 4th date with Harvey.  I like to title simple things to make them events.  Harvey asked that we just chill on this date.  Low key.  So I titled the date Chillfest 2011.  The evening started off with a nice glass of red wine and I was expecting snacks.  That's what he said we'd be having.  Well, he surprised me again and "whipped up" a tuna steak with miso terryaki wassabi sesame glaze and a jerk salmon and steamed veggies.  Very WW points friendly.  I was in charge of renting the videos.  Harvey advised that I wouldn't be judged on what I rented but what I was merely interested in.  I selected 2 movies that I wanted to see.  Not what I thought he may like.  I knew he would think I rented them to watch what he'd like...but I seriously wanted to watch Red and Inception.  I like action thriller films.  And I just didn't get to the theater to see either. Cut to the love se...

So the 3rd date with Harvey was about 3 hours which is short from our past 5 hour dates but we still had a great time. The restaurant was tasty. The view of the harbor was amazing. I recall him mentioning his interest in living near an intercoastal waterway hence my selection for a restaurant. He was under the weather and loopy with the meds he was put on. I told him he could have rescheduled. He insisted that wanted to be there and see me. *blushing* I asked him the hard hitting questions: religion? Jewish, not big practicing. High holy days attended like moi w/my Catholicsm(Easter Lily and Christmas Pointsetta). I asked him about his family being ok w/him dating a Black Catholic. He said his gram is the only concern bc of the non Jewish thing, not the Black thing. LOL! We started to ask each other questions our friends wanted to know about the other. One friend of his wanted to know if I've ever dated a white guy. Duh! I have a feeling that I am his first Black woman t...

2nd Date with Harvey tonight ended after Midnight.  So does that count as date number 2 and 3? We went to this great seafood restaurant in Downtown Charleston called Fish.  Can you guess what they served there? Before we walked in, I took him in.  He was wearing what I love to see guys in...neat jeans, loafers and a button down shirt.  Yummy.  He said "Look at you! You dressed up and look great, as usual." I was wearing the dress I purchased yesterday that begged me to wear it out that night.  I have to admit, I was dressed to kill.  Mission Accomplished.  He shared that he had a surprise for me inside the restaurant.  As we walked into this beautiful restaurant, we moved to sit down and he shows me my surprise.  Chilling in the wine cooler is a bottle of Chardonnay.  It was like gold to me because, I thought he only liked reds and also I knew it was a good bottle from his recent trip to Napa.  Appar...

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This past weekend was a musical friend's birthday.  She has a gig at a restaurant and invited the party to come to her gig versus hold a party offsite.  She is an amazing musician. She's getting her PhD in Music.  Yeah, she's THAT good.  Well as she's playing her keyboard and guitar, she asks me to get up and sing Roberta Flack's "Killing Me Softly".  Not the Fugees version.  Lauren Hill would have back handed me if she heard me sing.  Roberta wouldn't be very approving either.  I got up and choked!  I lost my place, made up the words even though the lyrics were in front of me and was soft and weak with my projection!  It was my worst nightmare.  I hated my friend for throwing me up there but she knew that if I didn't get more stage time and experience, I wouldn't get the chops to do it on my own.  This young couple was giggling lightly in the background as I choked on every blessed note. The song was killing me softly an...

Praise God!  Harvey really made a great impression. He was handsome, polished, well spoken, educated and sane.  I'd like to repeat the word "Sane."  We had a fabulous lunch date and it lasted for about 4+ hours.  We were talking so much that the server came back several times and started to believe that we weren't going to order.  We were able to sit outside in the sun. We had so much to talk about and didn't run out of topics.  The comfort level was well...sorry to be redundant...comfortable.  We took a walk on Sullivan's island after lunch and it was just nice.  We made plans to see each other later in the week- Tomorrow-Thursday.  Both of us reached out to the other the next day to share thanks and happy anticipation to seeing each other on Date number 2.  (Cue dramatic music). And we talked on Valentine's Day, wished each other a happy one and agreed that every day should be the day you acknowledge you care about someone. Con...

It's been quite a while since I've blogged.  I had a whirlwind weekend with a visiting friend from NJ.  And then I jumped back into the work grind and the dating world. The visit with my NJ friend showed me more of Charleston that I hadn't discovered.  We went to the PBR Rodeo, a horse drawn carriage ride of the city, jazz concert, friend singing at bar concert, random musician show, and a lot of eating at great places and lots of laughs and great talks.  I hadn't really gotten to know my visiting friend well but that weekend really locked in who she was and I learned so much about her.  I was happy for that quality time but I had to take an extra vacation day to recuperate from the fun and food overdose. It was worth it. What I did learn is that sometimes it's best to be 1 on 1 and not always be a trio. I love to merge my friends and see how they mix.  I learned that I shouldn't make sociology experiments out of friendships.  I also learned that so...